True Healing: 5 Step Process
From Fragmentation to Crystallization…
In the spiritual community, healing is often viewed as a lifelong journey. This perspective is rooted in the understanding of what true healing really is: a profound alignment of the soul's essence with its divine purpose, restoring unity between the self and the cosmos.
True healing means feeling whole within and experiencing a deep connection with the collective.
Your purpose, at its core, is simply to be fully and authentically you. Any tool you use to achieve this—whether it’s singing, dancing, acting, creating art, making music, writing, painting, or any other form of expression—is just that: a means to an end. If your soul feels drawn to a particular activity, it’s guiding you toward a deeper level of self-actualization through expression.
This is why you might be drawn to various forms of expression throughout your life. Your soul seeks the specific outlets it needs to facilitate its expansion and growth.
Are We Always in the Process of Healing?
Yes. Earth can be seen as a school of integration. We come here without any memory of our eternal divinity so that we can enjoy being a microcosm of the All That Is—and learn something new along the way.
Often, you’ll have an idea of what you’re here to learn and integrate by looking at your birth chart, and more specifically, your progressed chart. This chart tracks the development and evolution of your soul over your lifetime.
You’ll know if there’s fragmentation occurring within your soul if you’re in a traumatized state, as most of the collective is. Trauma, in its simplest definition, is unresolved distress or any experience that overwhelms the nervous system's ability to regulate itself.
By reflecting on the following signs, you can identify the extent of fragmentation within you and pinpoint exactly what you’re feeling. Often, simply becoming aware of these feelings is enough to spark the healing process. After all, shining a light on a shadow makes the shadow disappear.
Signs of Fragmentation
Emotional Instability: Frequent mood swings or intense, unpredictable emotions.
Identity Confusion: Uncertainty about your self-identity or purpose. Feeling disconnected from your values, goals, or core self.
Inner Conflict: Cognitive dissonance, internal battles, or conflicting desires and beliefs. Struggling with self-acceptance or reconciling different parts of yourself.
Behavioral Inconsistency: Acting in ways that seem inconsistent with your values or beliefs.
Dissociation: Feeling detached from yourself or your surroundings. Experiencing events or emotions as if they are happening to someone else.
Chronic Stress or Anxiety: Persistent feelings of stress or anxiety without a clear cause. Difficulty managing stress, leading to physical or emotional exhaustion.
Unresolved Trauma: Ongoing distress related to past traumatic experiences. Difficulty processing or integrating past trauma into your life.
Relationship Difficulties: Struggles with forming or maintaining healthy, stable relationships. Patterns of dysfunctional or chaotic relationships.
Addictive or Compulsive Behaviors: Behaviors used to escape or numb emotional pain.
Physical Symptoms: Unexplained physical ailments or chronic health issues without a clear medical cause. Physical manifestations of stress or emotional turmoil.
Lack of Focus or Direction: Difficulty setting or achieving goals. Feeling aimless or directionless. Struggles with maintaining focus or commitment to long-term objectives.
A 5-Step Process for True Healing
To begin the process of true healing and unify the different parts of yourself, follow these five steps: Identify, Connect, Express, Integrate, Align.
Identify: Start by identifying the core issues. This involves labeling the emotions you feel, the resistance in your life, or any wounds you’re carrying. You can become aware of them through the triggers that arise in your day. Take note of any self-sabotaging behaviors, victim complexes, negative thoughts, toxic patterns, and anything that makes you feel less than whole.
Connect: Connect with the trauma or wounds by understanding them. Bring curiosity and acceptance to these feelings, allowing them room to breathe and be seen. Anything that remains in the dark will continue to control you. The goal is to diminish its power by bringing a new, comforting perspective to the situation. Acceptance opens your energy field, while judgment constricts it.
Express: Express everything that the pain, trauma, or wounds are asking to be expressed. Become a vessel for the pain to move through you. This can take the form of journaling, crying, somatic shaking, ecstatic dance, screaming into a pillow, punching the air, shaking your body, breathwork, or any other physical release. This helps the body let go of deeply held painful memories.
Integrate: Reclaim the story of what happened to you and redeem it in a way that integrates it within. Reframe your experience so it propels you into higher timelines. For example, someone healing from an abusive relationship might process their emotions and then write a book to help others with the same wound.
Align: Ensure that there is harmony within your mind, body, and spirit. Healing is not linear; what you thought you had processed in your first round of healing might resurface years later, asking to be viewed from another perspective. This doesn’t mean you’re regressing; it simply means you now have a new vantage point from which to observe and further integrate your past experience.
For instance, someone who heals their body dysmorphia by accepting their appearance and changing their relationship with food might later find themselves adjusting their clothes and appearance in social situations. This is just a different facet of the same trauma being expressed in a new way, and that’s okay. It’s all part of the unfolding process of healing.
The Reality of Healing: Embrace the Ugly
Healing is more like a spiral than a straight line. We often revisit what we heal from, but through new lenses.
One of the most important aspects of healing from fragmentation is allowing yourself the space to mess up. Healing is not pretty, and it’s not supposed to be.
We often imagine healing as sitting peacefully on a rock by a lake, meditating while doing yoga poses. This couldn’t be further from the truth.
In reality, healing involves descending into the depths of our spirit, into what feels like hell. It’s tormenting, brutal, and requires an incredibly strong soul to pull yourself out of the darkness and into higher states of existence. There will be blood, sweat, and tears. Knowing this is part of the process should give you permission to embrace the ugliness. The uglier it gets, the more healing you’re likely achieving.
Expect to be tested by your ego, which will bring up resistance and inner critic chatter. The ego will hold onto your unhealed self out of fear and discomfort. It loves the known and the safe. If you’re tempted to play small or repeat toxic cycles or behaviors, know that this is also a divine part of the healing process. It’s meant to help you distinguish your inner soul’s voice from your ego’s voice—one operates out of faith, the other out of fear.
Be Mindful on Your Healing Journey
As you progress on your healing journey, you’ll be drawn to different modalities of healing. This might include practicing certain faiths or ideologies. However, be cautious: the ego can get trapped in dogmas when it clings to one truth without remaining open to new insights.
This is how people often fall into different spiritual pipelines and psyops—being led by fear, often based on a metaphysical or physical experience. They end up surrendering their consciousness to a new paradigm where they no longer have conscious choice.
This can look like someone escaping an overt cult only to end up in a covert one, such as certain religious or ideological systems meant to control and suppress a person’s power.
While you’re vulnerable and in a delicate state of healing, be mindful not to be guided toward harm. Stay connected with the truth, which always resides within you. This truth can be accessed through remembering your immortality and connecting with the creator and your higher self.
You can do this through meditation, connecting with others, journaling, creative outlets, or simply stating, “I now remember my divinity and am open to being led by God, Source, and Truth.”
You’ll know which path is right for you by how it makes you feel. Remember, religion and other systems of control can serve a purpose for certain people at certain points in their journeys, but they are tools—not the ultimate truth.
Your inner knowing, authority, and sovereignty are the most powerful forces in this universe.
Embracing Your Sovereignty
In the end, your journey is uniquely yours. While tools, teachings, and communities can support your healing, the ultimate authority lies within you. Your inner knowing, your sovereign self, is the most powerful force in the universe. Trust in this, and you will find your way to wholeness.
As you continue on this path, remember that healing is a lifelong journey. It’s not about reaching a destination but about continually evolving, integrating, and aligning with your true self. Embrace the process, with all its messiness and challenges, and you will emerge stronger, more connected, and more whole.
True healing is not a one-time event; it’s an ongoing journey of self-discovery and transformation. It’s about moving from fragmentation to crystallization, where all parts of yourself come into alignment with your highest truth. Along the way, you’ll face challenges, but each one is an opportunity to deepen your understanding and strengthen your connection to your soul.
So, give yourself permission to heal, to make mistakes, and to grow. Trust in your inner guidance, and know that every step you take brings you closer to the wholeness you seek. Healing is a process, and as you walk this path, you are creating a life that is truly aligned with your soul’s purpose.
